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Updated: Nov 8, 2021

” A person whose mind is distracted dwells between the fangs of afflictive emotions.” -Shantideva.

When I read this quote, I was struck by how easy it is to let myself be distracted. Distractions open the way to lose focus, to not have available the information I need to take the action that I want to take. In business I am clearer at being decisive, identifying the emotion, choosing the language necessary to move my objective and have the nonverbal language to support it. Personally, I find this more difficult.

I was part of a conversation today with a man named Stuart Heller, one of the top teachers of nonverbal expression in the country. He said that when we make decisions, first Focus on the horizontal which is the breadth of all our choices and then on the vertical which then brings in to Focus what we want our decision to be. I loved this… I realized that when I get stuck in the horizontal, that I can become distracted in the space between my options as the quote up above states. What became clear to me is that bringing into my field of Focus the vertical, I filter everything that is not in direct support to the choice I want to make.

I am continually amazed at how minor adjustment in the way we see, feel, and hold our intent, we show up is Brilliance.

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