Have you ever been in a situation where you wanted to ask for your 100%, but instead ask for what you think the other person is willing to give? So, you only ask for 75% and then finally give in and get 50%. You leave in a mood of resentment because they did not give you your 100%, the rub being you never asked for it.
Maureen Dowd the New York Times columnist said” The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less that what you settled for.” Having the capacity to observe ourselves in these situations and chose to alter our request is powerful. Learning to make a powerful request; asking for our 100% is one of the goals of coaching. Having the capacity to renegotiate our requests, our 100%, will allow us to accept whatever percentage we chose to accept from a place of satisfaction, rather than from resentment.
The next time you are ready to make a request, tell the person” This is my 100%” and see what happens.